Crystal M Williams

Disability Advocate, Mental Health Advocate, Blogger, Kabuki Syndrome, Animal lover & Loves Travel

Hello I’m Crystal Williams! Thank you for taking the time to check out my website. I’m going to tell you a little bit about myself & why I decided to become a blogger. First off  I’m a person with a disability. I have a rare Syndrome called Kabuki Syndrome. It’s not as popular as autism or down syndrome. Most times when someone comes up to me & they don’t know me or do know but don’t know that I do have a disability it’s because you can not tell that I have one, part of my syndrome is that I have a hearing loss. I used to have a hole in my lip when I was born & that was called a cleft lip I no longer have that thanks to all of the surgeries that I had as a child. I also used to have very poor balance but thanks to therapeutic horseback riding I can now walk normally. I still do horseback riding today & I’m happy to say that I no longer need therapeutic lessons. Being a person with a disability doesn’t stop me from doing the stuff that I love, it just means that I have to work just that much harder than anyone else.

Now why did I want to become a blogger. I’ve always loved to write. Writing has always been a huge passion of mine. It has always been my way of expressing my feelings & it’s also been an escape for me. Now I want to be able to share my story with others & hopefully educate others. Being a disability advocate not only for myself but also for others who are not able to share their own voice is very important to me because I want to be able to educate others to understand & not be afraid to ask questions & want to get to know us better. I’m also a big advocate for mental health. I struggle with Depression & I want to be able to help others to come forward to share their story as well & know that they are not alone on their journey. We are all in this fight together.

Other things that you may not know about me. I’m a huge animal lover especially horses, dogs & cats. I love doing horseback riding. I love to travel. I married my best friend & the love of my life. We adopted a cat named Buttons. I love doing photography in my spare time.

Hello everyone, today marks another Bell Let’s Talk Day here in Canada. I always feel that it’s very important for me to take part by writing a blog post. Every year I have talked about why this day is so important to me and many others who struggle with their mental health. Today I thought I would write about the things that have helped me the most along the way. As a lot of you know I have depression. I have had depression since I was eighteen my senior year of high school in 2010. It’s always a real struggle for me, but I have learned to keep trying many different things to help me a long the way. I am on medication for my depression but I don’t just rely on my medication to help me get through it. I have had a few different counsellors a long the way to help me cope and navigate my depression. It has been very helpful for me to be able to talk about my feelings and know that my feelings are valued. That was one of the hardest things for me in the beginning of all of this. I have had great counsellors a long the way. I started seeing a counsellor when I was ten or eleven to help me find ways to navigate being a person with an intellectual disability and also help me with my frustrations. As I gotten older that’s when the depression started to get worse but I was lucky to have a great counsellor to help me try and manage it. Once I hit the age of twenty I had felt like I didn’t need the help anymore. Then once I was twenty-four that’s when I started going to see a different person again. I was really struggling with my depression again because we had lost a few family members which was very difficult for me and I was really struggling through that time of my life. Again I started going back to a counsellor to get me back on track. I had stayed with them for a bit till I had felt like I was doing okay. Two years ago now I have started to see another counsellor that I have been seeing off and on when I really need it. I am really happy that I can go in, do it over the phone or even on a video call. I used to think that it was embarrassing to have a counsellor but now I have realized that it’s okay to have a counsellor. They are there for you whenever you need them and that’s their job is to help you. I have also found for myself that if I journal everyday the things that I am grateful for has really helped me I also make sure that I think of three different words like for example like I am thoughtful, I am creative and I am motivated. I call it my Gratitude Journal. I found this from reading many different self help books and listening to a few different motivational podcasts. I have made it more of my own but I have found that it really helps me. Everyone says that exercising can really help as well with your mental health. This is something for me that I am not a huge an of but I do know that I do feel much better after a good workout. This is something for me that I really have to push myself to do. Sometimes I would rather go outside just for a walk instead. Another thing that I have found that has really helped me with my mental health is going to my riding stable Valley Therapeutic Equestrian Association. I get to go once a week for my own horseback riding lesson and I also volunteer there as well. There’s nothing better than going somewhere that makes you happy. I highly recommend finding somewhere to Volunteer or spend time at a place that makes you at your happiest. We all deserve to be happy. I know that it can be really difficult at times when you’re feeling down and have that dark cloud over your head. What I want to say is that things will get better, just remember that you are important, you are loved and you are worthy. If you know someone who is really struggling all you need to do is reach out and let them know that you are there for them. We are all in this together. If you know someone who is really struggling please feel free to share this with them. For me all I want is to be able to help others that are also struggling with their mental health by sharing my own story with depression. I just want to take a moment to thank you for reading my blog post. It really means the world to me. I hope that everyone has a great day!

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, I know that I am a little bit late posting this. First off I hope that everyone had a great holiday. I hope that everyone has had a good start into this new year. I am feeling pretty good so far with this new year. I started off by going through all of my things to see what stuff that I could donate and things that were garbage. It feels really good to do that because I was kind of feeling overwhelmed with everything in our little condo. I’m sure there’s a lot of you that have felt that way as well. Here it is starting the third week already in January. WOW! Where has the time gone, I am really looking forward to what this year will bring. Matthew and I have a few trips that we are looking forward to this year. My younger brother is getting married this year which I am so happy for him and my sister in law. I am hoping to get back into doing more on my blog this year. I am still working on this very special project that is very close to my heart which I am not quite ready to share with everyone just yet. Anyways that’s all for me for this little update. I hope that everyone has a great week.

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, it really blows me away how fast this year is slowly coming to an end. Today I have been doing a lot of reflecting on what this year 2022 has happened to me. This year was a big one for both me and Matthew. We both turned 30. His birthday was in January and mine was in May. We got to do a few different trips this year with our family. We went to Hawaii in March with his family. It was a really nice trip. First trip outside of Canada since 2020. We mostly got to relax on this trip which was a much needed vacation. If you want to know more from that trip you can go back to the blog post that I wrote about it from this year. Our next trip that we went on was at Adam Lake where my aunt and uncle live. This was during the July long weekend. It was great to see family who I haven’t seen since our wedding which was back in September 2018. That trip was mainly just getting to have lots of fun playing games, going out on the water in my uncle’s boat. I got to try wakesurfing for the first time. It was so much fun. I almost got up on the board. I also went paddle boarding a few times while we were there. There’s nothing like being out on the water on a beautiful day. Our next family trip was with Matthew’s family we went to Texada Island to visit his grandma and see his family that we don’t get to visit with very often. It was my first time getting to see Texada Island, I’ve been to a few other different places on Vancouver Island, but never the other islands near by. Our last family trip that we got to do this year was Canim Lake with my family. This trip was in August. It’s on family trip that I always look forward to every year. We got to go for a whole week this year, which was awesome. Being able to spend time with family or do our own thing was great. We did lots of fishing there mostly off of the dock but we also went fishing on my dads boat as well. We didn’t catch much on dads boat but we manage to catch more fish off the dock. They were only little fish that we had to throw back out into the lake but it was still a lot of fun. One of my favourite things about going to Canim Lake is that we really get to unplug because there’s no cell service. We also got to go paddle boarding on the lake. I like to sit on the paddle board instead like kayaking. I didn’t do as much reading on this trip like I normally do but I did get to have a lot of naps when I wanted. The last trip that we got to do this year was going to Toronto for the SCSC Global Symposium. This trip was in October. It was so nice to see some familiar faces from the last one we attended from back in 2019. There was so many incredible speakers that I was blown away by. I really also enjoyed the breakout session that we had. Everyone had very similar views on the topics that were being discussed. I always learn so much when we go to the symposium.

This year Matthew and I celebrated our four year wedding anniversary. We also got to do other fun things this year like go to play land which we both haven’t been there for a long time. We also got to go watch an Abbotsford Canucks game. This year we spent a lot of time with our family not only on trips but also over the holidays which is always nice. This year I did lots of reading which I really enjoy when I get my down time. I also got to do horseback riding and volunteer at my riding stable which makes me so happy. This year I have been working hard on a special project that I have been working on for the last two years. I was really hoping to finish it by the end of this year but unfortunately I’m still working on it. I am trying my best not to beat myself up that I didn’t get to complete the goal that I made for myself this year. I know that once I finally get it finished it will be worth it and I will be happy with all the hard work that I am putting in to it. One thing I know that I didn’t do a lot was posting on my blog this year. I hope to get back to it next year. Overall for this year I think it was a good year. I have learned a lot and I have grown a lot this year as well. I am really looking forward to 2023. I have a few exciting things that I get to look forward to for next year. I am also looking forward to whatever else comes my way in 2023. I hope that 2022 was a good year for everyone else. I also hope that everyone had a wonderful holiday season with family and friends. I am wishing everyone a wonderful, healthy and a happy new year. Well that’s all for me until next year.

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, I thought that I would just take a moment today and do a quick update. I realize that I haven’t posted anything since coming home from Hawaii and that was way back in March of this year. That was six months ago already wow time has flown by. Anyways I just want to let you know that I haven’t forgotten about my blog. I just haven’t had much time lately to come on here to do much because I have been working on a different project that has been taking most of my time and energy. I am hoping to finish it before the end of this year. I have been working on this new project it feels like forever but I know I will finish it very soon. Anyways once I am done this project, that I am working on. I will be announcing on my blog so that everyone will finally get to know what secret project that I have been working on for the last two years. Also I will share it on my Facebook and instagram accounts as well. Anyways I haven’t forgotten about my blog. I do really love and appreciate everyone who comes to my blog website it truly means a lot to me. I hope that everyone has a great day!

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, it just occurred to me that I haven’t been very active on my blog since January. So I figured that it was about time that I post something. It has been almost three weeks since I got back from Hawaii. I went to Maui with my husband and his family. Matthew and I stay for a week, while his family stay for ten days. We all weren’t even sure if we were going to be able to go for a long time because of covid and all of the restrictions that they had put in place for traveling. It wasn’t till the week of our trip that we were all excited about going. It was a little bit strange to been in an airport for the first time in two years of not being able to travel outside of Canada. I was definitely more anxious and nervous then I have ever been travelling this time around because I knew it would be a way different experience with having to do a rapid antigen test and wait for our results. We were all kind of worried because of the what if factor. What if one person tests positive and everyone else test negative. Anyways you get the idea, we had to wait for thirty minutes for our results and everyone’s results were negative so we were all clear. To be honest that was truly the most stressful part in the airport and after that everything else was a piece of cake.

Now enough about that part, time for the actual fun part. HAWAII!!

When I go with Matthew’s family, they have been to Maui a few more times than I have and they love staying at the same place every time. So we stayed at a condo in Kihei. It’s nice because we could decide when we wanted to eat out or stay in. We did lots of swimming at a couple different beaches that we have been at before the last time I went with his family to Maui. Matthew and I went swimming a few different times at the pool. Went boogie boarding a few times I forgot how much fun that is. One day went snorkelling, although it wasn’t the greatest time because my mask kept fogging up on me and I didn’t make sure that my flippers fit me properly. Spent one day on the other side of the island in Lahaina did some shopping there and also walked around the little town. It was kind of sad this time walking around seeing so many of the stores that we have been to before, that either had to close down or downsize because the pandemic. Anyways no more sad talk. We got to see a few beautiful sunsets on the beach that was across from where we were staying. Played cards a few nights, did lots of reading and had lots of laughs. I have one other thing that was a huge highlight from the trip. I wanted to save this one for the last because well it’s the best one in my books. I finally got to see a sea turtle. I have always wanted to see one and I have never gotten to see one up close before. This sea turtle must of got caught in a huge wave and got pushed closer to the shore. It was a few feet away from everyone in the water who was around it and I couldn’t believe how big it was. it was absolutely incredible and I was in complete awe by this beautiful animal. This was on the very first day of our vacation.

Anyways that’s all I have for today about my trip. I will put some of my favourite photos from our trip below. I hope you enjoyed reading my blog post today. I hope that everyone has a wonderful weekend!

~Crystal~