Crystal Williams

Disability Advocate, Mental Health Advocate, Blogger, Kabuki Syndrome, Animal lover & Loves Travel

Hello I’m Crystal Williams! Thank you for taking the time to check out my website. I’m going to tell you a little bit about myself & why I decided to become a blogger. First off  I’m a person with a disability. I have a rare Syndrome called Kabuki Syndrome. It’s not as popular as autism or down syndrome. Most times when someone comes up to me & they don’t know me or do know but don’t know that I do have a disability it’s because you can not tell that I have one, part of my syndrome is that I have a hearing loss. I used to have a hole in my lip when I was born & that was called a cleft lip I no longer have that thanks to all of the surgeries that I had as a child. I also used to have very poor balance but thanks to therapeutic horseback riding I can now walk normally. I still do horseback riding today & I’m happy to say that I no longer need therapeutic lessons. Being a person with a disability doesn’t stop me from doing the stuff that I love, it just means that I have to work just that much harder than anyone else.

Now why did I want to become a blogger. I’ve always loved to write. Writing has always been a huge passion of mine. It has always been my way of expressing my feelings & it’s also been an escape for me. Now I want to be able to share my story with others & hopefully educate others. Being a disability advocate not only for myself but also for others who are not able to share their own voice is very important to me because I want to be able to educate others to understand & not be afraid to ask questions & want to get to know us better. I’m also a big advocate for mental health. I struggle with Depression & I want to be able to help others to come forward to share their story as well & know that they are not alone on their journey. We are all in this fight together.

Other things that you may not know about me. I’m a huge animal lover especially horses, dogs & cats. I love doing horseback riding. I love to travel. I married my best friend & the love of my life. We adopted a cat named Buttons. I love doing photography in my spare time.

Hello everyone! I hope that everyone is having a great start to their weekend. Today on my blog, I am writing about something really special. If you follow me on my Instagram and Facebook account, you would have seen that my husband Matthew and I brought a new family member home last week. For those of you who are just finding out now, I will tell you all about him. We brought home a brand new kitten home on Thursday September 2. A person that we know that works at the same company that we work for just had a litter of kittens in July. Matthew and I had been talking about maybe bringing another cat into our little family because our other cat Buttons was chewing on our stuff and we were not sure what to do for her. So we started to do some research to see if there’s anything that we could do to help her. There was a couple of things that really stuck out to us. The first thing was that because she is part siamese cat we found out that they can have separation anxiety. The second thing that we found out too was because she lost her mother at only two or three days old she didn’t have her mom around, instead she was bottle fed as a kitten. So we did a few things like getting her some different toys that would help her. That stuff really did help her but in all fairness I had really wanted to get another cat so that Buttons would have a friend to play with while we are both at work during the day. So when we found out that two of our other coworkers were getting a kitten from the litter we were both excited for them and found out that there was still some available. I wanted to see them so once I saw the picture of him I couldn’t help it but know that we had to have him. So Matthew and I had talked about it, he wasn’t to sure about the idea at first but then when he saw his picture Matthew was sold too. We had a few different names in mind for him, but we had two names that we weren’t sure which one that we were going to end up with. The first one was Rickie and the second name was Theodore. We ended up calling him Rickie. He is named after Matthew’s favourite professional golfer Rickie Fowler.

It has taken some time for Buttons to adjust to having her new little brother Rickie around but they have started to get along. It’s so nice to see Buttons coming out more instead of hiding when we have people come over to visit. They love to chase each other around our condo. They love to play with each other and also they love to sleep close by to each other as well. Buttons has put Rickie in his place a few times now, but he doesn’t seem to care. Rickie just wants to follow Buttons around and play. They are both so happy to see us when we come home from work. Rickie differently keeps us and Buttons on our toes for sure but we wouldn’t have it any other way. Here’s a few pictures that we have of him. I hope you enjoy.

~Crystal~

Rickie at eight weeks old.
First picture brining him home!

Hello everyone, it has been three weeks since I have wrote anything on my blog. So I thought I would write something tonight. Two weeks ago Matthew and I went away with my family for a vacation. It was awesome getting to go camping and spending some family time together at the lake. It has been awhile since we have all gotten away together as a family on a vacation. We all went up near 100 mile house to Canim Lake. It was great getting to go fishing in my dad’s boat even though we didn’t catch anything, it was still so nice to be able be on the lake. We even went fishing off of the dock which was a lot of fun too. It was so nice to be able to unplug from my phone and social media. I took some pictures but not a whole lot. I have been trying to do more with manual mode on my digital SLR camera instead of using automatic mode. We all did lots of relaxing and mostly enjoyed everyone’s company. We all had said that the trip went way too fast so that only means that we need to do this trip again for next summer. Anyways that’s all for now. I hope that everyone is enjoying their long weekend.

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, it has been about a month since I have wrote a post on my website. Today I felt like I needed to post something because I have been thinking a lot about all of the forest fires that have been going on in my beautiful province of British Columbia, Canada. This has been on my mind for a little while now. It has been so hard to hear on the news and seeing so many posts all over social media. Knowing that so many people have had to evacuate their homes knowing that they would lose everything or hope that they still would have a home to come back to. Some people didn’t even get an evacuation warning some people had to grab things on the fly and just get out of their own home. There’s one town here in BC that was completely destroyed by the fires. Which to me is very heartbreaking. I’m still not sure if they know what caused that fire but all I know is that wether it was caused by a person or by another one of the fires, it’s still devastating. Now all of the smoke from the forest fires have finally made its way down into the lower mainland, which is really sad. It’s so sad to think that the forest fires keep getting worse and worse every year now. I feel that it has only started to get really bad in the last four to five years. I mean there has always been a forest fire somewhere in the summer but nothing likes this that I can remember.

Photo by Luc Tribolet on Unsplash

Now not only have the fires been horrible but the weather has been a big problem as well. We have had record breaking temperatures as well which has cause us to have a heat wave that has been up to the 40c which would be 104F. I can tell you that I have never experienced anything like this before ever. I am hoping that this heat wave will come to an end soon because this has been the second time this summer already that we have had very high temperatures. We have only had a tiny little bit of rain which doesn’t help. We need a few days of rain to help contain these fires. I also want to take this moment to thank all of the hard working fire fighters that have been working so hard to keep everyone safe. Thank you for sacrificing your own time away from your family and friends to do your job.

~Crystal~

Hi everyone, hope everyone is having a good week. It’s hard to believe that another week has gone by so fast. This week I was away on vacation with my husband and his family. We had planned this trip so long ago that I can’t remember when we had booked it. Anyways it was a much needed getaway that we all needed. We went to Tofino BC for four days. Tofino is on Vancouver Island for those of you who might have not heard of it before. I highly recommend going to the island if anyone ever comes to Vancouver BC it’s absolutely gorgeous. This was my first time going to Tofino and I would love to go back again. All of the places that I have been on the island is beautiful and they are all very different in there own ways. We stayed at Middle Beach Lodge in a beautiful cabin. They had complimentary breakfast service everyday. The breakfast was really good and they had a nice selection of food and drinks. We even had drinks at happy hour one night and the drinks were fantastic. We went to a couple different beaches and I was completely blown away at how beautiful they all were. We went to Chesterman Beach and Middle Beach. We also got to go into town to check out some of the stores and explore more of Tofino. We ate out at two different places while we were there, Tacofino for dinner one night and Bravocados for brunch. We even took a drive into the Ucluelet for a couple of hours and got to see a little bit there as well. Overall it was a great trip and I am looking forward to the next time I get to go to the island again.

~Crystal~

Hello everyone, I know it has been awhile since I have been on my blog. I am really excited to share something with everyone that I don’t usually talk about on my blog. This week I just got some new hearing aids. I have been wearing hearing aids since I was nine months old. I have a moderate severe hearing loss. Since I have been wearing hearing aids the technology has completely changed every time. I started out with wearing these big hearing aids that had ear molds where they would’ve have to take an impression of my ear so that the ear molds would fit just right for my ears. As I was growing up my ears were still growing too so that meant sometimes I would have to go back to my audiologist to get new impressions done for my ear molds because my ear molds would be too small and would leave sores in my ears. Once my ears stopped growing I didn’t have to worry about getting new ear molds. I wore those type of hearing aids till I was eighteen. Then once I became an adult then I got to wear hearing aids that weren’t as big and didn’t have the ear molds anymore. Instead I started wearing these smaller hearing aids that had a tiny little wire that is connected to a tiny little dome that I just push into my ears. The best part about those is it you can’t even see them because that’s how small they are. The sound quality has always gotten so much better each time I am due for new hearing aids. One thing that has always been a little bit challenging for me is when I am wear head phones while I am lisenting to music. I could never wear the big head phones on my hearing aids because they would hurt my ears and my hearing aids would make so much noise because the head phones would bother my hearing aids. Then on the other hand the smaller head phones would go right in my ears and I would have to turn the volume up a lot louder just so that I could hear. Over the last ten years or so the technology for hearing aids has been so much better because they have been able to make hearing aids have bluetooth so that the sound can go directly to your hearing aids. So what that means is that I don’t have to worry about not being able to hear my music or whatever else I need to hear. So now I don’t even need to wear head phones to listen to music, videos, podcasts, phone calls etc. This makes so happy because not only does my hearing aids help me everyday so that I can hear properly but it also lets me enjoy listening to music and everything else without having to damage my hearing. For everyone please remember that your hearing is really important because it’s something that you can’t get back once you lose it. Please don’t take you hearing for grated

~Crystal~

Theses were the first type of hearing aids that
I started wearing at 9 months old till I was 18 years old.
These were the first pair of my smaller hearing aids
that I started wearing when I became an adult
These were that last pair of hearing aids that I have worn
These are my newest pair of hearing aids.
Here are all the different pair of hearing aids
that I have worn all together over the years.

Hello everyone,

I hope that you are all having a great weekend. Today I am having a great day and I am feeling very energetic. This morning I did my workout on my stationary bike and as I was doing my workout this morning I felt like I needed to write on my blog. Today I felt so energetic after my workout that I felt like I wanted to talk about mindset on my blog. I have only finally realized this for myself two years ago. I have started to workout more and I have found that it really helps my mental health as well as my wellbeing. As much as working out is not one of my favourite things to do, I have found that my mindset has changed for the better throughout the rest of my day. Not only has working out made a huge difference for myself but, I have also changed my diet to being a vegetarian. I would have never thought changing my diet would make a big difference but it sure has. I have more energy, I also feel better and I don’t feel so down. I am in a better mood even when I am really struggling with my mental health. I still struggle with depression even on my tough days still but now I am able to push myself and not feel like I want to go hide away from everyone. I have also found that if I write in my journal what I am grateful for it keeps me in check and reminds me that I am worthy. Every so often I still get that little voice inside my head telling me that I am not worthy or that I am not good enough which brings me down. I try very hard to ignore that little voice as much as possible. When you are in the right mindset it’s amazing how much better you feel and how much it effects your day. I have found for myself that I am in such a better place because of my mindset and my wellbeing. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing because if you are not in a good spot people will not want to be around you if you are always negative. Being able to find the things that not only make you the happiest but also remembering to take care of your own mindset and wellbeing is super important as well. Finding things that make you happy can also make a huge difference. For myself writing is one of the things that makes me the happiest. I love being able to share my story with all of you on my blog or even if I am writing for just my enjoyment.

~Crystal~

Hello Everyone!

First off I want to say Happy March! Where has the time gone already. I hope that everyone is having a good week so far. Today is a good day because it’s the annual Spread The Word Inclusion day and this year they are talking about connection. Which I think that we can all agree that we need to be more connected more than ever, especially during this pandemic going on. It’s definitely been very hard on everyone because we haven’t been able to spend time with all our loved ones outside of our own households. It’s great that we are still able to stay connected with our loved ones even if we cannot be together in person by talking with them on the phone, by texting and also being able to still see them by video chat. For myself connection is so important because being able to connect with not only your family but also your community around you is extremely important. I know that a lot of people are probably missing being able to go out into the community doing the things that they love and seeing the people as well. We all need to be around people because that’s how we were created and we are not used to being told that we can’t be around other people. I know that for myself not being able to connect with people in person has been difficult on my mental health. I know that I am not the only one who has been struggling with their mental health during this pandemic. That’s why inclusion and connection both go hand and hand. Everyone wants to feel included weather that’s being part of a sports team, a work place, school event and or just being part of your community. The more inclusion that goes on in our world today means more connections. That’s why social media is so powerful in our world today, because we are able to connect with people from all parts of the world who can share the same interest and be connected. I am so grateful that I am able to use my social media platforms and my blog to connect with so many other people that are like myself with disabilities and also others who don’t have disabilities.

For those of you that would like to know more information about Spread The Word Inclusion or if you would like to take the pledge and be apart of this amazing non profit organization. You can go to their website or follow them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram & Youtube.

https://www.spreadtheword.global

Hello Everyone, I hope that everyone is having a good week. Today is a very important day for lots of people that are struggling with mental health and I for one absolutely love supporting this incredible cause because it has a very big impact on my life. Today here in Canada is Bell Let’s Talk Day for those of you who have never heard about it. It’s for anyone that suffers with mental health. As many of you know that I struggle with depression. I have been struggling with depression since 2010. So every year I look forward to being able to share my story with others in hopes that I am helping someone else who is struggling as well. I remember when I was first diagnosed with depression I had felt like I was a failure and I felt like I was all alone. I didn’t want to tell anyone about it because I had felt ashamed of myself. It’s already hard enough for me being a person with disability, now being a person who has mental health issues as well is bad enough to deal with. I learned that the more that i didn’t say anything to anyone the more I was hurting and I had felt more alone. So when I had finally broken down and let everything out that’s when I had realized that I couldn’t keep it all in and needed to let people in so they knew how to help me. I find they more that I am able to talk about it, the more it makes me feel better. I have met other people who have gone through the same thing that I have and being able to share our stories with each other makes a big difference. Now for myself I have wanted to be an advocate for others with mental health because we are all not alone and we are all worthy. In 2019 I made a huge change that helped with my mental health, I stopped eating meat. I can honestly say that I never thought that I would be that person and give it up but within a few weeks I had felt better. I didn’t fell so sad and I had felt like I had more energy. Now in the winter months I still struggle but not as bad as it used to be where I didn’t want to get out of bed or hide. Now I am able to push myself to get up to do things that I know will help me. Another thing that I have found very helpful is keeping a journal everyday by writing things down like what I am grateful for and things that are important to me. What I would really like is for anyone who is struggling to remember that you are not alone, reach out to someone that is important to you and tell them how you are doing, talk about your struggles with someone don’t keep it all bottled up and the last thing to remember that you are worth it. Before I close out my post for today I am going to put a few helpful quotes below for anyone who might need some inspections today. Anyways that’s all for today. I hope that everyone has a good day.

~Crystal~

Hello everyone Happy New Year. Welcome 2021 hopefully this year will be a much better year than 2020 was. We have made it through the first week of this new year. I am very hopeful that things will be better for 2021. Normally I like to set goals for myself for the new year but instead for this year I am going to take it one day at a time and see where this year will take me. I used to set a new year’s resolution but some how I would never stick with it. So now I don’t do those anymore. Last year I really struggled with my mental health and I manage to find new ways to help me get through it. I’m sure there’s a lot of you out there that did go through the same sort of things struggling with your mental health last year. We can do this we are all worthy. So by that being said let’s hope that 2021 will bring us more joy, happiness and better health moving forward. Well that’s all for now. I hope that everyone has a great week.

~Crystal~

Hi everyone, 2020 what a year we had this year. I’m sitting here today New Years Eve, reflecting back on this year. 2020 started off to a good start getting to go away on vacation on a cruise with my family for a week, which was very relaxing. Then a few months later having the pandemic hit and everything changed. I stopped going to my barn for my horseback riding lessons for a few months not knowing when I was going to be able to go back or not. That was very hard for me. I really struggled with my depression even more this year. I was able to go back to my horseback riding lessons in the summer, which I was so grateful and happy that I was able to go back. I didn’t realize how much I missed the place and how much I needed that place to help me with my mental health. Over this whole year I have been so grateful to be working during this whole pandemic. Over the summer Matthew and I were able to get away and visit family for a vacation up in Kimberley and Invermere BC. Then in the fall we celebrated our second wedding anniversary and went to Whistler BC for a week. It was a nice little getaway for both of us. Lots of rest and relaxation. Then after our vacation in Whistler my family got some bad news that my grandfather (papa as we call him) had stage four cancer. We weren’t sure how much time we had left with him. So we spent as much we had left with him as we could. Unfortunately we only had a month left with him. Losing my papa was very difficult for me because I was so close to him and spent so much time with him growing up. It was nice to get to spend some time with my nana and my family before things got even worse with the pandemic. Then came the Christmas holidays and didn’t have much else other than work being so crazy busy for the holiday season.

Overall This year was definitely challenging but I learned more about myself. I did do a lot of self reflecting this year as well. Did a lot of reading this year I red six self help books and found some very helpful tips that I was able to take away and use in my everyday life. One thing that I really found very helpful was writing in a journal every day about the things that I am grateful for and keep reminders for myself. This year I have started working on a new project that I’m very excited about. I will share more about it probably in the new year. Anyways that’s all for now. I hope that everyone had a wonderful holiday. Let’s all hope that 2021 will be a much better year for all of us.

~Crystal~